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If you want to blow your man’s mind, try planning a date. I’m not trying to be unfair, but it seems as though we guys get set up to be the sole providers… of romance. Every romantic movie or TV moment has some guy making some grand romantic gesture. Do I really have to stand out side your building in the rain screaming your name? Is it so bad if I call you on my cell from the diner right across the street? Ok, my point is, our views on romance are just different. We think it’s romantic that you pick up our socks for us and don’t understand why you don’t see the romance in it when we change your oil. Granted, there’s no reason any dude couldn’t have “Romance for Dummies” and a cheat sheet of anniversaries, birthdays and favorites hidden somewhere in the back of his closet. But most of us men flat out suck at the planning part of anything. Look at the difference between a maid of honor planning a Bridal Shower, and a man planning a Bachelor Party. Months of planning and paperwork vs 24 hours notice and a beer run. So if a woman buys in to our brand of romance once in a while and sets something up, she can prepare for a very grateful guy.
Share his vices
Try joining us for something we like that you hate. If I have to go to the theater, can you come to a stadium? If your guy likes sports why not take him to a game? Go golfing, go fishing, hunting (if your not morally opposed) or even play video games if that’s his shtick. The point is whatever he usually does with “the guys” give him a chance to do it with you.
Get Dirty
You may be the kind of cool chick who already does those things. Extra points if you can bait your own hook or hold your own in Halo. If so, then ask yourself this, when was the last time you got motor oil in your hair? Getting dirty, in the literal way, can be a great time. Once you put on clothes you plan to ruin, it opens up a whole world of possibilities. Paintball, painting, fixing a car, mud-fighting. Well, it could be fun. The point is, sacrifice the manicure, just this once, you might enjoy it.
Dear Penthouse
OK, who can talk about appealing to the male psyche without covering sex. Plan something really unique, worthy of a Playboy fantasy story and it will be a night he’ll never forget. The easy stuff, is costumes, role playing, the naked sushi thing. More advanced, a tryst in a public place or getting the car to run out of gas on an abandoned road. (Tip, if you are going for authenticity, make sure you keep a gas can in the trunk.) If you want to go this route there’s plenty of research material at your local newsstand.
Involve his friends
You could do this in conjunction with the previous idea, but that leads into a whole different post. What I mean is, hang out with his buddies. Organize a night at the bar, challenge him and his friends to a game of pool. It doesn’t matter if you suck, it matters that you can chill. Host a game of poker, drink a few beers, bust a few stones and have a few laughs with him and his friends, and he’s in heaven.
Men and women have a lot in common, but when it comes to what equals romance we’re completely different. Bring us flowers and we think it’s sweet but they will die because we will never think to change the water. Bring us a corn dog and we’re ecstatic. It’s as simple as thinking about what we love and making memorable. And guys, if your woman does these kinds of things for you and you don’t ever give that girl some soft music and candlelight. You’re just ruining it for the rest of us.
