All Dressed Up…You Know What To Do
February 23rd, 2009 by Queen of RomanceI’ve been harping a lot on what women want, but what about what men want? Let’s talk about that. Men, for the most part, are more transparent when it comes to love and sex; man desire is physical and all out in front (so to speak). To meet your guy’s needs, usually all you have to do is show up. But to really get him firing on all cylinders, how about putting forth a little extra effort?
One aspect of fantasy for both sexes is indulgence – fantasies frequently involve a partner indulging your every whim, and sometimes things you would not really want to do. Some people do enjoy spanking or other painful sexplay, but the reality is often a great deal less pleasant than the fantasy. Be careful about indulging your wildest sex fantasies, if you’re not an acrobat, that position in the Kama Sutra that depicts a suspension device and a few sturdy helpers to hoist the spread-eagled woman over the prone man – possibly with the help of an elephant, the illustrated Kama Sutra is a little confusing – can be painful, impractical, and quite embarrassing. Personally, I think I’ll pass on both the hired help and the elephant.
Let’s not get carried away with this. Unless it’s really what you want, don’t offer extreme fantasy indulgences that involve other people, animals or pain. Most men can be stupidly aroused with a lot less effort. Once in a while, ladies, surprise him with a little fun and harmless roleplay. Some ideas:
Arrange to meet him at a restaurant, then show up naked under a trench coat and inform him you’ll be skipping dinner. Unless he’s the incredibly sexually repressed, the idea that you’re nearly naked in public -just for him- will drive him wild.
Break out the cheerleader gear or the knee socks, plaid skirt and pigtails. The schoolgirl fantasy is nearly universal. Don’t worry, he doesn’t get turned on by little girls, this is a trigger from his own puberty. It evokes a primal desire. Ok, some sickos do get turned on by little girls. You’ll want to avoid those anyway. But for most men, the schoolgirl thing is just a little harmless fun.
Approach him in a surprise disguise. Arrange to meet him at a bar and show up dressed to the nines, dripping in fake diamonds, wearing a long red wig and false eyelashes. Sure, people will think you’re a hooker…just stay in character, slide onto the seat next to him and introduce yourself by a made-up name.
It doesn’t take all that much to create lengendary sex memories, and it’s totally worth it. I’m always looking for new ideas, so spill it girls…what do you do to turn your guy on?
Tags: attraction, Kama Sutra, Turn-Ons
