From My Perspective – Official DateHookup Blog

Do you validate? I’ve always said that the most powerful weapons in the arsenal of life are smiles and sincerity. People want…no, need to connect. On a visceral level, they need to know that the choices they’ve made are good choices. It never ceases to amaze me how far a little sincerity can go to lift spirits.And the most amazing thing is that lifted spirits are contagious. Unfortunately, so is depression.

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Sometimes I wonder how well TV romances actually chronicle the changing view of relationships for each era, and that leads me to wonder what direction we’re headed in. Did we become too cynical to sustain an historical expectation of romance and family?

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Not so long ago, what was considered sexy was considerably different than today’s perception. I was watching a TV show recently and something struck me as odd. It took me a while to figure out that the romantic female lead was…big. She was not skinny and it seemed wrong. That internal realization was followed by: “WHAT? Am I seriously thinking that?” In this case, there was probably more to it, perhaps there was no chemistry in the onscreen romance or maybe she was miscast in a role she didn’t fit, but the impression stuck and got me thinking.

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I’ve been harping a lot on what women want, but what about what men want? Let’s talk about that. Men, for the most part, are more transparent when it comes to love and sex; man desire is physical and all out in front (so to speak). To meet your guy’s needs, usually all you have to do is show up. But to really get him firing on all cylinders, how about putting forth a little extra effort?

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When I sleep, I want distance. Lots of it. In order to insure this, I own a bed only slightly larger than a football field, and anyone else in it better stay on the other side or get out. I sleep close to the edge and rarely toss and turn…resulting in efficient sleep, which is good, because in my case, lost sleep is definitely not pretty. I am the Fortress of Solitude. My ideal partner is another Fortress or a Corpse.

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A few years ago, I hooked up with a celebrity online, a bonafide rock star. It was just a chance meeting, he was trolling a forum where I hang out and we started to chat, and it was like a lightning bolt of pure attraction. Before long we were chatting all day every day. He didn’t say who he was at first, and when he told me, I did not believe him, but since I liked him so much I pretended to. Eventually, I did become convinced he was who he claimed to be, because he began to mention things we’d discuss on his blog and even during an online radio interview he’d asked me to tune into.

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I admit it, I’m a Sims addict. They are fascinating creatures, and I think what captures me most is how accurately they mimic life. Granted, it doesn’t take an hour to prepare a sandwich and another hour to eat it, and doing so doesn’t really drain two hour’s worth of energy, but the developers have the aspirations and relationships down cold. Take me, for example. I so clearly have a knowledge aspiration. I don’t care that much about material things, and money isn’t all that important to me (although I’d like to not worry about it) but creative pursuits that further my knowledge and sharpen my wits are paramount. I’m pretty low on the cleaning meter but I have a few mechanical skill points because fixing things furthers my knowledge, and I’m maxxed out on the creativity scale.

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Welcome to CyberDate. Are you lonely? Tired of being alone? Ready to find the love of your life? Just log in to your personal profile and fill out a few simple questions to find a match made in heaven. Please answer honestly and completely.

First, tell us what you’re looking for:
Q: Man or Woman?
A: Woman

Q: Body type: slender, athletic, muscular, chubby, buick
A: slender (no fat chicks!)

Q: How important is physical beauty?
A: Critical (I’m looking for gorgeous)

Q: IQ: genius, smart, average, dumber than dirt
A: genius! (so she can earn enough money to keep me in style)

Q: Income: Oprah, above average, average, still lives with parents
A: Above average or Oprah (or else I’ll have to work full-time, and that would cut seriously into my RPG time)

Q: Alcohol consumption? Drunken fool, often, social, never
A: Never (she can be the designated driver)

Q: Interests:
A: Cooking, cleaning, sex, massage

Thanks! Now a few questions about you:

Q: Man or Woman?
A: Man (duh, stupid question)

Q: Body Type: slender, athletic, muscular, chubby, Buick
A: chubby (just how big is a Buick? Maybe I should change it to athletic)
A: answer changed to athletic

Q: On a scale of 1-10 with 10 being gorgeous and 1 being dogfood, how attractive do other people find you?
A: 10! (my mother says so all the time)

Q: IQ: genius, smart, average, dumber than dirt
A: genius (ok, a little less than average, but what genius girl is going to want a dumb guy?)

Q: Income: Oprah, above average, average, still lives with parents
A: average (for a teenager with a part time job…they didn’t specify)

Q: Alcohol consumption? Drunken fool, often, social, never
A: Social (if Lindsay Lohan can say that, so can I)

Q: Interests:
A: RPGs, football, sex., sex, sex, competitive eating , getting massages

Additional Info:
Q: Employer:
A: Joe’s Corner Gocery

Q: Your position:
A: Part-time bagger

Comment:
I like Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain.

Congratulations! Based on answers given by you and the women in our database, we have found a 100% perfect match. Her answers matched your criteria perfectly. Mildred is slender and beautiful, with a genius IQ, an above average income from her cashier job at the Laundromat, and she never drinks. She loves to cook and clean, have sex and get massages. And she also likes Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain! Her nickname is Midew. Here’s her photo:

Do you have any “Midew” Stories you’d like to share?

Sex is all up here for women [taps head]. You’ve heard that before, but do you know what it means? It’s definitely not the same for men, they can be in the middle of an argument about who’s going to clean up dog poop and get horny (seen it). For us women, every minute of the day counts towards the “mood.” So get our your score cards and start tallying up points for the big win.

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Enigmatic TV show Lost delivers drama, mystery and intrigue, but a lot of the buzz centers on the romantic entanglements of Kate, Jack and Sawyer. Initially, she was drawn to Jack, who quickly emerged as the group leader. And why not? He’s moody, intelligent, great looking, and an overall take-charge kinda guy. What a catch! I’d totally do him. Kate seemed to have hit the jackpot. This is a guy we could really settle down with, even if he has the emotional range of a flounder and signs of some serious mental instability. Hey, who doesn’t come with baggage? He’s a doctor; mom would be so proud. But then when Kate plants a big sloppy wet kiss on him with her hair all sexy wild and her skimpy tank top plastered to her rockin’ body, he doesn’t seem to have any clue what to do with her. My guess is the writers were trying to create sexual tension, but just wound up leaving Jack looking terminally confused, and not in a good way. Now Sawyer, he’d have known what to do. He’d have thrown me…her – I meant her, I swear - right down in the mud and the weeds and had her clothes off in seconds.

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Which brings us to the bad, bad boy of Lost, and the dilemma faced by nearly every woman alive (we really should know better). Sawyer is big, he’s surly, he’s scruffy, and sometimes he’s downright mean. He’s got a shady past, selfish tendencies, and no discernible future. And still we want to rip his clothes off with our teeth. The question is why him and not Jack? Is it because a dependable guy like Jack would probably protest about the cost of the shirt? “Wait, stop! what are you doing? This is a silk shirt, do you know how much this costs? I’ll take it off and fold it neatly and then we can resume lovemaking.” Any guy I can imagine saying “resume lovemaking” just can’t get me juiced up.

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