From My Perspective – Official DateHookup Blog

Even the happiest, healthiest relationships run into their snags now and again. By nature, people argue, and when you spend a lot of time with one person, you’ll lose your cool every now and again. I had one boyfriend with whom I had a very intense relationship. We argued about the tiniest, most insignificant details of life, but when we weren’t fighting, life was good. Very good. Eventually the fighting ended the relationship, but for the last few months of the relationship, I kept a log of some of the insane things we argued about. I’m publishing it here as sort of a cautionary tale. I guess these should have been warning signs, huh?

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March Madness is fully underway, and if you don’t even know what March Madness is, you’re probably like a lot of women out there (come on ladies, read up). It seems to be one of the fundamental differences between men and women: guys are content to drink beer and eat chips while watching grown men fight with each other, while women are more than happy to hit the mall during this strange male ritual. Unfortunately, there will probably be a time when even the most sports-aversed girl will have to begrudgingly watch a few quarters of a game. But it doesn’t have to be that way! There are a lot of ways you can tolerate – or even enjoy! – sports.

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I was about eighteen years old. My parents were out of town, so I decided to throw a “small party”, which turned into anything but. After indulging in a few adult beverages, my then-boyfriend and I headed to my room for some “alone time”. Couldn’t have been more than a few minutes when I heard the dreaded knock on the door. I knew my friends wouldn’t bother, so it had to be only one person…

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We’ve all been hung up on someone before – had butterflies when they look our way, gotten weak in the knees when they held our hand, and blushed at the thought of them thinking of us.  The problem arises when the object of our affections does not quite return the same sentiments and, as if a part of some unwritten guy code of conduct, just will not call us back.

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While grocery shopping the other day, I got a little teary-eyed while listening to some love song softly playing over the PA system. As I thought about whether or not I’d ever feel love like they were singing about, I began to wonder: just how genuine are the lyrics to these songs? Sure, it’s easy to sing about how wonderful and perfect your relationship is, but sometimes I find it hard to believe that the people singing these songs have ever really experienced these emotions.

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I finally did it – met someone online!  He’s actually normal, my age, and really awesome.  We had a great date last night, and are taking it to the next level this weekend: the “staying in” date.  I’m cooking and we’re watching a movie, so we all know what that really means.  While rifling through my movie collection trying to decide what would be the perfect film for our evening, I stumbled across a few that would just be disastrous to watch on a date.  From crazy women to painfully awkward romances, I just had to laugh at how awkward it would be if I chose one of these movies.

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I’ll admit I was a bit skeptical when I first created my dating profile.  I wasn’t sure how comfortable I felt putting all of my cards out on the table for any old person to see.  Would some creep download my photo and create some kind of weird Silence of the Lambs-style shrine to me?  Would some jilted date be able to put the pieces of my life together and find out where I live?  And perhaps most troubling to me was: what if I do meet the man of my dreams online?  What ever will I tell our children?  “Well, honey, mommy couldn’t find a date, so she began scouring the Internet for someone to love her…”

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Ahh yes, the pickup line. Always cheesy, rarely successful, and never tasteful. Pickup lines always boggle my mind. Why not just strike up a conversation? Do you really think I’m going to fall for the same pickup line that’s been used on me eight times tonight? Wrong! Come on guys, give us a little credit. It doesn’t take much to sweep us off our feet, but a degrading line you grabbed from Maxim just isn’t gonna cut it.

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While dishing with my roommate about our most recent failed relationships, we came to a staggering conclusion: the first few dates mean everything. They truly do define the course of your relationship. Sure, there is such a thing as a bad first date that will eventually lead to a meaningful relationship, but in dating, first impressions tend to be everything. Don’t believe me? You will after these stories.

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So, Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and I’m single (yet again). While previous years have resulted in a wine-fueled, high-calorie pity party, I feel way too good to let this holiday get me down this year. I’ve come up with a cool list of fun things to do if you’re single on Valentine’s Day (or if you’re in a relationship but refuse to give in to this Hallmark Holiday!). Here are some fun ideas that will let you actually enjoy the day without feeling sorry for yourself:

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