Trials and Tribulations of “Hooking Up”
February 2nd, 2009 by Flirty FeliciaAfter a recent break up, I am back on the market. After eating my weight in Ben and Jerry’s for awhile, the time has come to move on! Although, I am not ready to start seriously dating anyone, any distractions are welcome. I have heard the saying “The easiest way to get over someone is by getting under someone else”. Until now, I haven’t necessarily agreed with this statement, but I guess with age and..um…new “needs” my mind has been changed. This of course opens up another can of worms; the trials and tribulations of “hooking up”. “Hooking up” is how my generation so fondly refers to casual sexual encounters, and when not handled correctly things can get messy. There are a few important rules to remember when taking part in a “hook up”.
First of all, you should always play it safe. I know, I know, we all had to take sex ed class and have heard the icky stories about people contracting STD’s, but in the heat of the moment a lot of things can go wrong. Chances are you don’t know the entirety of your hook ups sexual history or their latest test results. If you can’t find it in yourself to actually date this person then you probably don’t want them to be the mother/father of your child either. Wrap it up!
The next one is a tricky one. Do you or don’t you pull out your full arsenal of tricks with a hook up? Recently, a friend of mine went home with a women he met at a bar. They had, as he described, such uneventful sex that when she got up to use the restroom after the deed had been done he got fully dressed and prepared to make his escape. According to him, the sex had been so boring and run of the mill, that halfway through he had been ready to go. This of course made me wonder, would if it would have been better if this women had pulled out all the stops and really given him a show? Personally, I think flying your freak flag too soon may be a bad move. I think the best bet in hooking up is probably to keep things somewhere in the middle. Keep the mood light and have a good time, that’s why you’re doing it in the first place, right? On the other hand, make sure you know when to leave. Nothing is worse then that guest that over stays their welcome. Do you want to be THAT person? Yeah, I didn’t think so.
When involved in a “hook up” you also want to make sure you don’t give it all up mentally and emotionally either. A lot of hook ups happen under the influence of alcohol which can make even the quietest person into a Chatty Cathy. Your “hook up” doesn’t want to hear about how cute your cat is or the play you were in fourth grade. A good rule of thumb is not to say too much too soon. Even if you think your “hook up” is the hottest thing you have ever seen and see a white picket fence in your future, try to reign it in a little bit. At least try to wait until you think the feelings will be reciprocated. If you’re drunk, then lock up that mouth and throw away the key. Everyone loves the mysterious type 
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