Vanquishing Captain Romance
January 12th, 2009 by admin
Real romance isn’t in the big things. It’s in the tiny day-to-day reminders of love and attention. Unless money is really no object, spending major bucks on a skywriter to splash your love across the sky is more likely to get a guttural response of “Exactly how much did that cost?” than “You are the most wonderful man alive.” Women want to feel special, but they are practical creatures at heart. If you’re going to drop large coin, make it a memorable weekend trip or a nice piece of jewelry.
It’s not the size of the ship; it’s the motion of the ocean.
Maybe this will sound clichéd, but it’s really not about the size of the gesture, it’s about the thought that goes into it. Anyone can fill a room with romantic red roses, but few people know what she really prefers. It’s far more romantic to go to the trouble of finding her favorite flower than to send her a great big expensive bunch of whatever. She will be more impressed by what you remember than by how much money you spent. It shows you’re paying attention…and that she is worth paying attention to. (For the slow-witted, the size of the ship is the cost, and the motion of the ocean is how special you make her feel)
Last-ditch romance
It’s the bottom of the ninth, and you’re striking out in a big way. Months or even years of neglect have driven your romance so far south that she’s ready to walk out the door. So you don your Captain Romance tights and dash out the door in search of the romantic home run that will win her back. If this were television, you’d call in some favors, deck out a rooftop with tiny sparkling lights, have an exquisite dinner catered from some fancy restaurant, and Garth Brooks would appear to belt out “Shameless,” whereupon she would melt into your arms. But let’s face it, you probably can’t pull that off. You’re going to have to pull out the greatest weapon in the romance arsenal: sincerity. That’s right, talk to her. Tell her how you feel about her, and that you know you’ve been neglectful. Present her with a detailed promise to give her the attention she deserves. This will only work once or twice with a self-confident woman, so from now on, you’d better make with the good stuff.
Keeping a relationship going isn’t about the occasional appearance of Captain Romance. The little things add up to a BIG score. A sweet kiss when you’re coming in or going out, pulling out her chair at dinner, asking about her day, offering to make hot chocolate on a chilly evening, noticing that her hair smells nice. Simple things that take seconds every day are the hallmarks of real romance.
So, now you’re thinking, “I do all this stuff and what do I get out of it?” The answer is: everything. A woman who is happy and secure in her relationship, one who feels loved and respected, will do everything in her power to make you happy. Isn’t that what you really want?
January 13th, 2009 at 6:31 pm
I don’t know, I think my man’s hopeless. I don’t even get roses.
January 14th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
Some men need a complete remedial course in romance. They seem to forget the rewards they get for good behavior…try sparking him up with a reminder
April 14th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
I think some women need to take responsibility for romance too. I often get bored and frustrated in relationships because I am the one doing all the work to make things special. Men like sex for sure, but we need something more than that to stay interested beyond the initial fire of a new relationship and too few women know how to continue keeping the passion alive.