Things To Do Instead of Waiting By The Phone
March 17th, 2009 by Suzy in the CityWe’ve all been hung up on someone before – had butterflies when they look our way, gotten weak in the knees when they held our hand, and blushed at the thought of them thinking of us. The problem arises when the object of our affections does not quite return the same sentiments and, as if a part of some unwritten guy code of conduct, just will not call us back.
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If you’re like me, this is a familiar scenario: He says he’ll call tomorrow. You put your cell phone on its loudest ringer, placing it just so it’s just in your line of vision. You leave the room for a second, only to run back in to check your cell to see if he called. You may even hold the phone in your hand, just in case for some reason your phone magically switches to vibrate. You know you should be doing something productive, but are paralyzed by the fear that you may miss “the call”.
I’ve been there so many times – it’s excruciating! – and the worst thing you can do is sit and wait. I know it’s hard to think about anything else, but you have to. Besides, nothing is lamer than a girl or guy that has nothing better to do than sit by the phone! If you find yourself sitting, waiting, and wishing, try getting your mind off it:
- Make plans. Sure, he said he’d “call” to “make plans” for “this weekend”, but don’t wait around for him if you get a good offer. Looking forward to something fun will also alleviate the stress of not hearing back.
- Turn your phone off. Yes, you read correctly. Turning your phone off will stop your eyes from flitting to the screen every 30 seconds, and hopefully you’ll be able to get on with your life without hearing phantom cell phone ringtones. Plus, if he calls and your phone is off, he’ll wonder what cool things you may be doing instead.
- Focus on something else consuming. If you’re into knitting or scrapbooking or even at-home spa treatments, doing something that you have to throw yourself into will keep your mind at ease and hopefully bring you some comfort.
- Call him yourself. Now, I’m not a big fan of this one unless it’s been a while since the last communication, but if you haven’t heard back, there’s nothing wrong with ringing him up and seeing where he’s been. You may get the real story (a family emergency) or some bullcrap (“too busy at work to call”), but at least you’ll know. And a take-charge girl is a smart girl.
The key is just to keep your mind off it. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen. And you’ll feel a lot better answering his call knowing that your life didn’t stop for him.
What are some things you’ve done to keep your mind off a call that hasn’t come?
Tags: dating advice, Pet Peeves, Relationships
